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In Ontario, fall is the season when garden enthusiasts plant bulbs to ensure a colorful spring garden. “Many retail outlets carry a wide variety of spring-flowering bulbs,” says Ontario Ministry of Agriculture and Food Eleanor: Barbara and I both went through the conventional schooling of our time â€"â€" planned short- term careers because we knew we would get married and live happily ever after (and we did). 8. We have' two children; a son 12 and a daughter 15. Anne: What en- couraged you to start this type of work? Eleanor: Toronto is also my “home”. I taught in the North York school system as a principal‘s assistant teaching Grade Barbara: I was raised in Toronto where before marriage I was an in- surance company secretary. My husband Bill and I have four boys ages 9 to 23 and have lived in Maple for 17 years. The next 15 years were spent in raising our children. Anne: Before we talk about your actual program content, perhaps - you can each give me a little background information on yourselves? Barbara and Eleanor are experienced and capable group leaders who have started an exciting program called “Individual Growth and Awareness of Self.” This series of programs is available to con- ventions, schools or any interested group. As many of us are aware, today’s woman is thirsty for knowledge, eager to discuss the sometimes overpowering problems encountered in family life and in the search for her own identity. Plant bulbs now for colorful spring This is International Women's Year. [n the first of a series of articles discussing the life styles of women in the community, Anne Fowler. The Liberal's Maple correspondent. interviews Barbara Phillips and Eleanor Stoddart. Women’75:growing and sharing «XI 1.. $1114., to school WHO SAYS IT'S HARD TO BUY FURNITURE AT A GOOD PRICE? 5 pc. Living Room Set “$14500 To make all this even Easier we also havepayment plans with small payments starting Jan. 1976 on extended term plan. Return Week days 10-9 Built in Zig-Zag Sewing Machine with Cabinet AT EASY LIVING GOOD QUALITY AND GOOD PRICES ARE FACTS . . . NOT FICTION!!! AN SO COME TO EASY LIVING AND MAKE YOUR LIVING EASY!!! Anne: This must have Eleanor: My volunteer been very time- work consisted of work consuming.Ishould think “Tulips, daffodils, crocus and narcissus are perhaps the most com- mon types, and they come in many colors and shades.” Barbara: Prior to enroling at Seneca, I was doing volunteer work one afternoon a week in the office at the Family Life Centre in Richmond Hill. The horticulturist recommends that bulbs We had a real sense of accomplishment. Our abilities had not vanished as we had previously suspected, they had merely become a little rusty from atrophy of disuse‘ We saw that we could and did learn from a generation younger than ourselves and that they in t_urn wanted to learn from us. horticulturist, J.K Hughes. EA Y EASY EASY EASY LIVING TALK WITH PEOPLE, MAKE AN DEAL, SAVE AN DOLLAR $ $ $ $ $ “Do your own thing" had taken the place of the behavior mode of our school days. But we survived! And we were at- tempting to finish essays while the family kept asking, “Isn’t dinner ready yet?" It wasn‘t easy, keeping up with reading assignments and the laundry at the same time. And finding out that Dr. Spock had been replaced by Dr. Ellis. There, we found that if we wanted to do more than volunteer work, our training needed updating. We returned to school which is where Barbara and I met. Enroled in a two-year Marriage and Family Life education course at Seneca College â€" we were two women trying to fit into the “jeans and T-shirt set". Although involved in volunteer work, we were basically where we wanted to be: in the home. But about five years ago, I realized that the children required less of my time.- Being a creature of habit, I felt the need to work with people but neither Bar- bara nor I wanted to return to our former professions. So we turned to the field of social work. A little rusty $15900 5237 YDNGE ST., WILLOWDALE South of Finch near Willow Theatre FREE PARKING in the rear - 2255400 AN 7 Pc. Bedroom Set N EASY 3165"” Eleanor: Let me backtrack for a moment. Before entering the Family Life Program as a counselor, we had to pass a selection review board composed of psychologists, and various board members. I became part of the Intern Training program which is sponsored by the Centre and was initiated by Dr. Frank Fidler. This is a “lay” counseling course (Marriage and Family Life), which lasts three years. The first year was spent at Georgina, the second at Richmond Hill and this year I am at Markham. Barbara was chosen to work in education and leadership. If you are late in planting your bulbs, cover the soil with a layer of straw or grass clipâ€" pings to prevent ex- cessive frost damage. Barbara: In this field, at _Y9rk Uaner§ity been continuing our studies. our work has evolvingandcarrying out Anne: What exaCtly educational programs for does your program. the community as well as WhiCh has been “"111in for groups such for two years now, C0nSle. as schools, young couples 0” and women’s groups â€" varying in size from 10 to a hundred. The work is also largely a prevenâ€" tative type, so people can become aware of “problems” before a crisis situation develops. Continue studies Eleanor: I think to give an accurate answer, we’d have to break the question down. We work with different types of groups. For example: a women’s or couple‘s group may be interested in various types of topics ranging from parenting to some of the problems we face today raising children. be planted as soon as possible. This gives them time to establish a root system before. freeze-up. with York County Hospital and Brampton General. Also, I was involved with the Children‘s Aid Society helping to establish a volunteer program to assist social workers. Anne: During your courses at Seneca, were you putting any of the ideas that you were learning into practice within the community? Barbara: Yes, we found that we were truly en- joying it and we both worked on a volunteer basis at the Family Life Centre in Richmond Hill, in the Education Department. Put ideas to work Pass test 7 Pc. Stereo Complete with TaEe & Record Player AN 5 Pc. Chrome Dinette Set “690° $149"0 Anne: What exactly does your program, which has been running for two years now, consist of? In the schools, films and discussions on “values” and child development are often that your own need for a continuing education must be great as well as vital to the program? Barbara: Definitely. We are presently enroled at York University continuing our studies. “It’s a good idea,” says Mr, Hughes, “to allow at least a month after the blooms fade before cutting off about one-half of the leaves. This is because they are needed to replenish energy in the bulbs.” Saturdays 106 Counselors Eleanor Stoddar. left. and Barbara Phillips find that women are eager to discuss new roles, new challenges and the problems they are encountering in their search for self-fulfillment. A new kind of Openness Barbara: Eleanor andI both work a great deal with films. We find that films are able to carry their subjects through the screen to meet the viewer in a very personal way, women, life styles The film “Sylvia, Fran and Joy” shows how three women feel about the domestic role of housekeeper, wife and mother. Three different A popular program for a women‘s group is one involving talking about things that are important to “us”, awareness of what is happening and how to cope. presented (yes, the boys are interested too). 10427 Yonge Street Richmond Hill Fi/m workshops NEILL DATSUN three different The people in these films are not concerned with having us evaluate their lives. They con- tribute by helping us to look at our own. In a workshop, you can ex- pand your perceptions of yourself and other people. But if the only input is a film â€" and you come â€" you see â€" you go away â€" then we have not been successful with our workshop. In the past, films have focused mainly on human tragedies, whereas today, filmakers seem to have moved towards reflecting human strengths, human innovation. Films are one way to get people com- municating. Films by themselves are in- complete. We intend them to be completed by the viewers in discussion with each other. (Photo by H099) HEERESHMENTS WILL BE SERVED DURING THE NEW CAR SHOWING 9 am. to 6 pm. "EXCEUENT SERVICE AFTER SAM-'8” DATS U N The Management and Staff of N E I L L D A TS U N Cordial/y Invite you to the New Car Showing of 7976' Models Presents the all SATURDAY NOV. 22nd, _ 1975 You become more open to the people around you and to what the film is saying. If we are wise, we not only learn about other people, we learn from them. Part of what we’re all about in these groups is to try to open ourselves to understand how other people feel. Barbara: Thec content was: How do we com- municate? â€" How do we not communicate? â€" good and bad types of communication. There were ap- proximately 125 women present, seated at tables of eight. We spent a great deal of time on in- troductions. You cannot expect lpeople to share their thoughts and feeling with others that they don’t know. So we use specific exercises to bring about a closeness and a comfortable atmosphere. A film entitled “Tell Me Where It Hurts?" was shown in two parts; the day being divided into two 2L2 hour sessions with a lunch break. The movie is about “real” people and what women’s lib is really all about â€" not braâ€" burning and man-hating, but women discovering a need for self-fulfillment as individuals. Anne: What stimulated you to actually put this program “on the market"? Eleanor: We were becoming so busy as volunteers and the time involved in course preparation; continuing our own education, it was preventing us from doing justice to the sessions we were leading. Both of us feel very indebted to Dr. Fidler for giving us the opportunity to develop our skills in this field, Anne: I know that last August you were involved in a large convention at the Royal York Hotel: the Association of Municipalities of Ontario. I believe that you un- dertook a full day‘s program on “Com- munications" for the wives of the attending reeves and mayors. What did you do and how successful were you? Discuss communication We again used audience participation in role playing and discussion of these forms. Then we continued the last half of the film. We asked the audience to be aware of both the good and negative forms of comâ€" munication in the film â€" as we had previously discussed. We gave each table a list of prepared questions, only as a guideline. which they could discuss and answer among them- selves. After the small groups‘ discussions, we asked if there were any who would like to share their findings with the group as a whole. After lunch. we showed by role playing and discussion four types of communication: blam- ing, avoiding, conniving and placating. We finished up by looking at some good forms of communication: where you listen and really hear what the other person has to say; saying what you have to say directly and openly; expressing your feelings; being heard and the acknowledgement of this and checking out both the statement and the feeling. Anne: What kind of success rating would you give that particular day? The audience par- ticipated in these quite freely. Barbara: Ifelt from the sincerity of the women, that the program was well received. They seemed to feel that the time had come for con- ventions to give more thought to incorporating a women’s program of this type into the agenda. These women made it clear that they were tired of the usual “Bill of fare” offered to women at conventions. interes would 1 central library Anne cost be Barb person week f time w to mor evenin intere: contact Eleanor: I personally gained a tremendous amount of good feelings and knowledge. I felt it was a really positive learning experience. THE LIBERAL. Wednesday. Nov. 19. 1975 â€" C-ll participates A udience 889-0972 773-4661 FREE RADIO & RUST PROOFING 0N INTRODUCTION DAY Barbara: The greatest lesson I have learned from being involved in this program is that we have so much to learn from each other. I tend now to reach toward other women in other situations with a different kind of openness than I had been able to manage before. I really feel it is a big need not only in Maple but in other communities â€" for women of all ages who can bring their varying experiences and maturity to a group discussion. Barbara: Well, here in Maple for example, we could'hold a 10-week discussion series for anywhere from 15 to 30 interested women. It would likely be held in a central spot such as the Anne: What do you feel each of you are deriving personally from these groups? Barbara: The cost per person would be $2.00 a week for 10 weeks. The time would be flexible as to morning, afternoon or evening. If anyone is interested they could contact me or you. Anne: As a matter of interest. how would a group of women get a program started? Barbara: We hope to bring more women's programs to conventions, more work in the schools on family education, and of course, to continue our work with women’s groups in the community. Anne: What would the cost be? Eleanor: Marriage counseling and education was a great experience although none of my “psych” courses had prepared me for the impact of human suf- fering I have seen as a counselor. I‘ve been cried on. yelled at, threatened, pleaded with and ignored â€" and felt warm, helpful, valued and really good about myself â€" which is, I guess, what it’s all about. Anne: What are you both hoping to accomplish in the future? and valued Ye/led at